I was tapping over Instagram stories and encountered this post from a friend:

It was a screenshot from a post from Liz + Mollie, you can pay them a visit here.

People were agreeing with this chart, they even clapped and praise the chart creators. Most of the opinions were commenting about the falsity in social media. It got me thinking, what is wrong with that chart? There is nothing wrong with that. This chart is completely a true fact and it is okay.

For me, sharing things on social media is like sharing things in general. As a human, you want to share good things, great memories and achievement. Some people might love to share their "Really Hard Things" experience, but most of us preferred to share "Amazing Things".

Do netizens expect us to share our struggles? Do they really want to see when a family were financially broke and have to sell things for food? Do they want to see videos of a couple arguing? Does seeing our pain, tears and blood makes them happy? 

A photo of frustrated parents of toddlers doesn't need to be shared with the world. A family member that just relapsed does not need your eyeballs. 

If you think that you need to see "really hard things" over "amazing things", then my friend, you've been watching soap operas and reality shows too long.

Wajar ketika manusia berharap ada citra yang melekat pada dirinya karena memang sejatinya manusia itu dikenal dan dipahami oleh manusia lain karena citranya. Tampilan fisik hanya menjadi bridging saja. Yang saya pelajari sampai saat ini citra itu tidak bisa menular melalui sentuhan. Citra tidak bisa berpindah dari benda ke manusia atau dari manusia ke manusia. 

Tanpa menggeneralisir, tapi tidak sedikit yang berharap berpakaian dengan kaos yang bergambar band side-stream dari daratan skandinavia itu bisa mencitrakan edgy-ness. Menunggangi merk sepeda balap Jepang retro bisa mencitrakan ke-OG-annya. Menggunakan limited edition sepatu puluhan juta tidak membuat pemakainya kelihatan lebih keren, tampak tajir iya, tapi keren belum tentu. 

Apa iya foto bersama koleksi vinyl album fenomenal milik pribadi yang sudah dilegalisir membuat orang tersebut lebih terperinci dan saksama dalam menggali makna musiknya? Belum tentu.

Mungkin beberapa orang akan terpengaruh dalam ilusi citra yang sedang kita pertontonkan, tapi yang pasti orang-orang yang terpengaruh oleh ilusi itu biasanya orang-orang yang tidak punya substansi penting dalam hidup kita.

Ingat, Plato-Aristoteles-Socrated tidak pakai Supereme ataupun OffWhite

Tangsel, 27 Maret 2021
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Let's be honest. The title of this post is highly relevant to us. Although it is easier to spot blessings, we still count the problems. Well, most of the time.

Why? 

If there are two bowls in front of you, one filled with sugar and the other with eggs and you have to count them both. Which one you count first. Even worst, you will only count the bowl with eggs. You will disregard the other bowl. 

Blessings are countless, bottomless. Blessings are infinite, it uncountable. It might take your whole life to count blessings. It's in your breath, a blink of your eyes, blood that continuously flowing, food on your plate, every lux of the sunlight, sounds of this and that, fingernails that grow 3.5mm each month and endless endless things.

All our life, we have been taught to have goals, an objective. An ending & conclusion. That's why we tend to count our problems. Let's try the other way.